heartbeat

for that 30 seconds as i put my arms around his neck, let my head rest on his shoulders and as he placed his arms around my waist, as if reading each other's minds, our feet moved from side to side in tandem. we were slow dancing without any accompanying music. i closed my eyes hoping to savour that serene moment for as long as i could and smiled to myself as i smelt his familiar smell. it was a special moment i never wanted to end.

dancing together requires cooperation, compromise, submission, and unity which pretty much sounds like how a relationship ought to be. for us to be in sync with each other, we must first be willing to make some changes in our thinking and perhaps also in our attitudes. we need to accept that no matter how much we know, or we think we know, there are some things that the other party can be of assistance with and complement what we have. as i leaned against him, i knew that he will be my support and pillar of strength when things get tough, when i may not have the strength to carry on. just as in dancing whereby the guy leads and the woman follows, i know that in this relationship, i should learn to go with the flow and let him take the lead. as we moved, i got my cues from his movement and simply let myself follow his lead. we need to realise that we both need put down the cup of ego and pick up the cup of humility, both learning to submit and compromise sometimes.

many different moves are made in a relationship, but they are not always in sync with each other. if both parties are going in opposing directions or are unaware of each other, stepping on each other's toes will be inevitable. as in a relationship, we should remain aware of each other's needs and wants and not allow our selfish desires to ruin the beautiful dance. like how a good dancer is willing to learn so as to perform well, one's dance is affected by how much effort one puts in to accept change and make the necessary changes to enhance the relationship. If the dancer steps out of time, or makes a mistake, it is the responsibility of the dancer to accept, take ownership and rectify that wrong move in order to improve. as such, when one realises one's mistake, one should take the advise of the other party and continually learn to improve. the other party also has a part to play in remaining patient and guiding his/her partner so that their dance, as a couple, can be perfected, together.